You must learn to be disliked or you'll find yourself stuck in a prison of other people's desires
Reflection
This is a tough one for me, personally. Not that I’m a people pleaser. I don’t need you to like me. But I do want you to not dislike me. I think back to when we lived in Amish country in central Pennsylvania and I learned about both rumspringa and the practice of shunning. And I thought, “so what if you’re shunned by the Amish?!” Easy form me to apply the thought to someone else’s situation. So hard to apply it to my own. I think the fear is deep-seated. Ostricism from your tribe for much of human history was predominantly a death sentence. There was a related quote that I didn’t capture that I came across as I listened to Tim Ferriss’ Tribe of Mentors that was something like “If nobody dislikes you, you’re not doing anything of substance.” And I think it’s true. What world leader is universally liked? What captain of industry? What leading sporting coach? None. Courage is divisive. And being disliked should be the same for me as being shunned by the Amish. Practice awaits.